IMHO

I remember reading from a forum not so long ago how virginity should not be given too much importance. Because, or so they say, it is just a piece of skin.

I beg to disagree. Virginity does not only pertain to the obvious aspect - the physical - I think it goes deeper than that. It is not the proof that a woman has never had a man entered her, but rather, her innocence, purity, chastity - all of mind, not of body, spell virginity. So, for me, the moment someone reads/sees/hears something that will eventually lead him/her to think of malicious things, his/her virginity is already lost.

For what it's worth, I don't believe in virginity at all. The fact that we are born out of sex (no matter how you may want to call it) shows how important sex is to life. We are designed to do it. Which is why I don't understand those who choose to contradict our very nature.

Don't get me wrong, I am a devout catholic. However, I choose to believe that sex is not something that has to wait for marriage. It is merely for men's gratification to have wed a virgin. But I am not going to go to such lengths just to rub a man's ego.

I also believe that one has to perfect the art of lovemaking in the same way people try to master their craft. Not for any other reason but that it should be fun and not gruesome. Not an ordeal, but a pasttime shared by two people in love. Only in this field are there no norms, no rules, only new techniques to be discovered.

I have also read of a man's comment saying he doesn't want a virgin, because a virgin tends to be clingy and possessive, and almost always uses the line "I gave you my all and this is what you repay me." I hate such girls. A woman cannot be pushed to have sex with someone if she doesn't want it in the first place, so why make a man feel that it was his fault she gave him her "all"?

And just recently, a close friend of mine is having trouble with his uberly insecure girlfriend. She was everything I hate in a woman, and everything that I am trying not to be. Nagger, chatterbox, selfish, always take never give type of girl. Oh come on! She is putting to shame the entire woman race. If I could only talk to her, I would tell her to chill out and start thinking of her boyfriend as a person, a man at that, and not as a slave or a property.

Then I've also read in a note in facebook entitled "He's just not that into you" advising a girl how to make a man fall for her (or something like that because it was too loooooooooong and sounded too demanding). Oh come on!! Can we not do better than that? If he doesn't like you, deal with it. Move on! Don't force him to like you!

I still believe in that thought that if you really are meant for each other, the whole world will connive for you to stay together. But if everything is pointing in the other direction, it is not that you lack in effort. Take the clue, leave him. Life is just too short working on the wrong man to be the right man for you.

The note further describes the perfect time to call, to make him miss you, to evade breakup sex, etc. Oh come on (for the nth time)! I don't see the sense in following these stupid dating tips. Everyone has an idea of what to do, and if he/she believes in his/her idea, he/she will make sure it works. So why listen to someone else's idea?